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"But I shall show you a still more excellent way" 1Cor12

Studies: Birth Control, Contraception Don’t Cut Abortions →

One study, based on Centers for Disease Control data, established clear links between birth control and increases in sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). STD increases are a very reliable indicator of increased sexual activity and show that contraception is wrongly perceived as low-cost insurance — a perception that motivates increased sexual activity.

And more sex means more pregnancies. Why? Because contraception is far from 100% effective, and with mass distribution of contraception comes a commensurate increase in sexual activity. More pregnancies will result because contraception fails in predictable percentages.

It is noteworthy that failure rates are highest in Planned Parenthood’s customer base:

Failures are highest among cohabitating and other unmarried women, among low income, African-American and Hispanic women, among adolescents and women in their 20s. For example, adolescent women who are not married but cohabitating experience a failure rate of about 47% in the first year of contraceptive use.

"It is noteworthy that failure rates are the highest in Planned Parenthood’s customer base"

“We have to keep these people as patients” and “We must turn every call and visit into a revenue-generating client.”

How can one not see these connections to Planned Parenthood?  How can even the pro-choice advocate not be disgusted with Planned Parenthood?  Am I wrong in believing that a pro-choicer still believes that helping women in need is at the core of their advocacy?

How can we actually believe that contraception is good and healthy for a woman?  

Unless we believe that pregnancy is a DISEASE, then, yes contraception (sometimes) will cure us of that ailment.  And only SOMETIMES: 

Planned Parenthood concedes on their website that, “Being continuously abstinent is the only way to be absolutely sure that you won’t have an unintended pregnancy or get a sexually transmitted disease (STD)… abstinence is 100 percent effective in preventing pregnancy. It also prevents STDs.”14 On their chart comparing the effectiveness of different birth control methods, Planned Parenthood estimates that 2-9% of pill users will get pregnant in any given year and 15-24% of condom users will still wind up with an unplanned pregnancy.15 Abby Johnson makes a revealing observation concerning her own birth control history. “There’s an incredible irony,” she writes, “in the fact that I had a career in educating women about contraception and yet, for the third time, conceived while using contraceptives.”16 If you scoff at the CDC assertion that 12% of the women using birth control still wind up pregnant, consider that even a professional, sex-educator – the director of a Planned Parenthood abortion clinic wound up with three unplanned pregnancies – all while using contraceptives.  


(Source: http://www.abort73.com/abortion_facts/birth_control_and_abortion/)

  • But does chemical contraceptives prevent cancer? Umm, no. Chemical contraceptives actually increase the risks of Breast and Uterine cancer.    (#5.2, pg 169 from the World Health Organization)
  • What about AIDS? Sexually Transmitted Diseases??  Taken from the link at the title of this entry :
    One study, based on Centers for Disease Control data, established clear links between birth control and increases in sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). STD increases are a very reliable indicator of increased sexual activity and show that contraception is wrongly perceived as low-cost insurance — a perception that motivates increased sexual activity.”

How can we sanely rationalize that contraceptives are overall beneficial for a woman, unless the only —ONLY— benefit that an advocate has in his/her tunnel vision is to NOT BE PREGNANT?

 Are we so blinded by our desire to have consequence-free sex on demand that we will negate the other, much more life threatening issues as unimportant, so long as we don’t get pregnant?   

Pam Stenzel, an international speaker of chastity and abstinence, says in one of her talks that before she began speaking, she was a counselor for women in crisis for 15 years.  She says that many of the girls would heave a huge sigh of relief when they found out that their pregnancy test came back negative.  

Then Pam would ask, “but have you been tested for syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes, chlamydia, trichinoma, vulvadema, urethritis, hepatitis B, HPV or HIV? You have a four times greater chance of contracting a sexually-transmitted disease than you do of becoming pregnant.” 

And Pam goes on to say that the girls will look at her, incredulous to the reality of something far worse than being PREGNANT.  (http://www.prolife.com/stenzel.htm)

"Pregnancy won’t kill you. But an STD… that’s a different story." she says.

This is why, when pro-choice advocates scoff at the idea of teaching our youth chastity and abstinence, I shake my head.  WHY NOT? 

Teach them how to “BE SAFE”???   Safe from what?
STD’s?  The data from above dispels that illusion. It even dispels the pregnancy illusion. 

 I don’t think that saying “they’re going to do it anyway” is a responsible way to teach our youth that there is such a thing as “safe” sex.  Because outside of a marriage that combines two people who’ve been abstinent up until that point, there is no such thing as safe sex.  No such thing.

 We need to have more faith that young people are more than just dogs or cats in heat.  They’re human, given their own free will.  The will to say, “No, I am worth more than that, and SO ARE YOU.”

It’s time to teach our youth the truth. 

"The producers of October Baby have assigned 10% of the profits of the movie to Every Life is Beautiful Fund, which will distribute funds to frontline organizations helping women facing crisis pregnancies, life-affirming adoption agencies, and those caring for orphans."

The movie comes out March 23.  

Okay and so does The Hunger Games.  Make no mistake, I definitely want to see the Hunger Games.  But I am making the choice to see October Baby first.  Watching the trailers, it’s captured my heart already.  It looks to be a healing movie, one that will change hearts.  And what better cause, than life?!

Planned Parenthood is Accused of 6M Fraud →

Again, I continue to doubt that PP has women at the center of the core of their values.  

For the lazy reader (I know we all can be some days), here’s an excerpt:

However, owing to financial pressures of its own, Planned Parenthood Gulf Coast leaders and staff collaborated to register all kinds of ineligible services — pregnancy tests, sexual-disease tests, Pap tests — for Medicaid reimbursement, the lawsuit claims, adding that the bosses admitted to Ms. Johnson and other clinic directors that these claims were not eligible for reimbursement, but told them, “We have to keep these people as patients” and “We must turn every call and visit into a revenue-generating client.”

Regarding abortion services, the lawsuit said that Planned Parenthood Gulf Coast was required by law to refer pregnant women to doctors or clinics that did not perform or promote or refer for elective abortion. But instead, Planned Parenthood referred pregnant women “to its own abortion clinics for performance of abortion, in violation of state law,” Mr. Norton said.” 

In addition, clinic staff “falsely notat[ed]” patients’ charts to “fix” and “cover up” the frauds before inspectors or auditors came, the lawsuit said.

I finished reading Abby Johnson’s book, Unplanned. 
I’ll start off by saying it wasn’t the Planned Parenthood-bashing style book I’d expected it to be.  This book affirmed many of the sentiments I’ve begun to feel and realizations I’ve begun to materialize over the past few years:  There are good, well-intentioned people on both sides of the fence.  Abby joined PP because she was driven by her passion to help women in need.  A very good cause, and one that I share.  But, BUT! The abortion issue.  To Abby, it was something she didn’t like to think about all the way through, she just believed it should be a right for women as simply another choice.  
However, she writes of the incidents in her life that forced her to LITERALLY look at things she never really wanted to consider.  After seeing, her heart changed.In a very small way, I experienced a very shallow “falling of the scales from my eyes” just today. I’ve never liked or supported animal abuse or killing for game, or to use as decoration.  But I never REALLY forced myself to look at the cruelty of it.  I knew it was wrong and that is all I let my mind process.  But today, I came across this photograph of a nice interior design.  I looked back at it throughout the day, and finally I closely examined the zebra striped rug.  Whether faux or not, it looked real to me.  The holes where the zebra’s eyes used to be made me sick to my stomach.  I continued to follow the striped lines to the zebra’s legs.  It struck me that if this was really the skin of a zebra, its skin was literally ALL right there! FOR ME TO WALK ON.  Just so I could walk on it. For convenience. I’d never really thought of it in that way before. 
And thus, the realization happened to Abby Johnson as she watched the life of an unborn human, needlessly sucked and twisted out of his/her mother’s womb.   She’d never really thought of it that way before.  It’s not easy to think about.  Because understanding it means we have to think about other things.  Like how we are currently living our life.  Like what things or way of living are we going to have to change or give up because it doesn’t agree with what we can no longer deny as cruel, immoral and not necessary. It means, maybe a change of job, like Abby had to go through, a loss of friends like Abby had to endure (though one may argue they never were true friends to begin with)…But while viewing an animal skin laying on the floor was disturbing to me, this, I assure everyone, is nothing —NOTHING— to watching an abortion of a human being, as Abby has, as I have.  One can be an advocate for helping women in need without supporting the killing of her daughter (also a woman in need, RIGHT?), can one not?  Death does not solve the problems of a woman in need.  So, to the advocates of abortion:  I dare you to watch what you support.  You should, after all.  Watch the video to the complete end. http://herestheblood.com/ 

I finished reading Abby Johnson’s book, Unplanned. 

Unplanned by Abby Johnson

I’ll start off by saying it wasn’t the Planned Parenthood-bashing style book I’d expected it to be.  This book affirmed many of the sentiments I’ve begun to feel and realizations I’ve begun to materialize over the past few years:  There are good, well-intentioned people on both sides of the fence.  

Abby joined PP because she was driven by her passion to help women in need.  A very good cause, and one that I share.  But, BUT! The abortion issue.  To Abby, it was something she didn’t like to think about all the way through, she just believed it should be a right for women as simply another choice.  

However, she writes of the incidents in her life that forced her to LITERALLY look at things she never really wanted to consider.  After seeing, her heart changed.

In a very small way, I experienced a very shallow “falling of the scales from my eyes” just today. 
I’ve never liked or supported animal abuse or killing for game, or to use as decoration.  But I never REALLY forced myself to look at the cruelty of it.  I knew it was wrong and that is all I let my mind process.  But today, I came across this photograph of a nice interior design.  

I looked back at it throughout the day, and finally I closely examined the zebra striped rug.  Whether faux or not, it looked real to me.  The holes where the zebra’s eyes used to be made me sick to my stomach.  I continued to follow the striped lines to the zebra’s legs.  It struck me that if this was really the skin of a zebra, its skin was literally ALL right there! FOR ME TO WALK ON.  
Just so I could walk on it. For convenience. 
I’d never really thought of it in that way before. 

And thus, the realization happened to Abby Johnson as she watched the life of an unborn human, needlessly sucked and twisted out of his/her mother’s womb.   
She’d never really thought of it that way before.  
It’s not easy to think about.  Because understanding it means we have to think about other things.  Like how we are currently living our life.  Like what things or way of living are we going to have to change or give up because it doesn’t agree with what we can no longer deny as cruel, immoral and not necessary. It means, maybe a change of job, like Abby had to go through, a loss of friends like Abby had to endure (though one may argue they never were true friends to begin with)…

But while viewing an animal skin laying on the floor was disturbing to me, this, I assure everyone, is nothing —NOTHING— to watching an abortion of a human being, as Abby has, as I have.  One can be an advocate for helping women in need without supporting the killing of her daughter (also a woman in need, RIGHT?), can one not?  Death does not solve the problems of a woman in need.  

So, to the advocates of abortion:  I dare you to watch what you support.  You should, after all.  Watch the video to the complete end

http://herestheblood.com/
 

On Snooki's Pregnancy: →

Oh the “intelligence” that keeps being tactlessly flung at me lately!

I had shared an article from Live Action’s web site on FB about how pro-lifers need to be able to rationally defend their views, instead of using the same type of closed-down rhetoric that many pro-aborts do.  Here’s a relatively small excerpt from the article which gives the best example:

 ”One of the most common pro-choice arguments dismissive statements is “don‘t like abortion, don‘t have one,” but that statement completely misses the point of our pro-life case.  We don’t merely believe elective abortion is wrong for us individually.  We believe elective abortion is wrong for everyone.
It’s not like choosing a favorite ice cream flavor.  I like chocolate peanut butter, you like vanilla.  (For some mysterious reason.)  “Don’t like chocolate peanut butter, don’t eat chocolate peanut butter.”  No, we believe that elective abortion is wrong for virtually everybody because it kills a living, distinct, whole human being.  The statement “don’t like abortion, don’t have one” tries to transform our objective claim to a merely subjective one that is easy to dismiss.
Imagine if someone told William Wilberforce, “Don’t like slavery, don’t own a slave.”  They would have been missing the abolitionists’ point.  They didn’t just not like slavery; they thought slavery was objectively wrong because it dehumanized a whole community of human beings.” 

Okay.  So that’s what the link above is about.  Having posted this, then an old high school friend (whom I have not seen nor spoken with in years) commented underneath the article saying,  

"Snookis pregnant… take that prolifers lol"

First of all, this old friend of mine clearly didn’t read the article.  If this person had read it, he would have realized that this comment made him look completely unintelligent.
Secondly, I’ve seen this posted from a number of my social network pals over the past 2 days, so I figured I’d want to address it soon anyway…

Here is what I wrote …as I was feeding applesauce to my 1 year old… (Also, I’m changing his name because I do not wish to personally ridicule him on my blog where all the info I give is public for anyone to read.  He has always been a sweet guy and this was kind of surprising to hear come from him.  I do wish to call-out this type of ideology, however, that with which pro-aborts seem to be plagued) :

I’m sorry? Why do people keep saying, “take that prolifers?” like it’s some attack, some strategy move? 

All this shows to me is the people who say this remain completely ignorant to the inherent value of the dignity of each and every human life. If you don’t understand those words, I’ll simplify for you: everyone’s life is worth just as much as yours. Your life’s not worth any more than Snooki’s nor the life within her womb. You all have the same inherent value. 

So this tells me that pro-Aborts who think this way are prejudice, and intolerant of people different than themselves, they think they’re higher, better. 

I don’t watch Jersey Shore. But I know enough that Snooki’s behavior is not pleasant. Can we not have compassion for this person, however? She is a person, after all. Why would we show her hate? This is exactly what pro-aborts claim that prolifers do to the woman: that they only care for the baby. 

Well this prolifer cares for both. This prolifer knows that if Snooki is incapable of bringing her child into a safe environment, there are literally THOUSANDS of parents lined up at adoption centers who will. I also know where Snooki could go if she wanted to change her life for her child. I know who she could talk to. 

Pro-aborts seem to have no faith in the human race: maybe this girl would change her ways? It is possible, is it not? 
Even if she didn’t change her behavior, would her child starve? she’s a reality TV star, I think not. I believe we all could think about worse circumstances that a chilld may be born into. 

Have some faith, Bob. Don’t be so derisive. And especially, I ask that if you want to open a conversation with me, you don’t do it in such a mocking, sarcastically hateful way- when was the last time we spoke, Bob- seriously? Years!! 
A personal message, maybe an open yet public inquiry of my opinion in the matter, would’ve shown that you’re not so biased and prejudice. But since you’ve shown that about yourself, my arguments- even backed with logic and science probably would not penetrate your brain.”


 Why, does it seem, that so many people are not willing to have an open conversation? Why don’t people want to learn, to teach themselves, to better their understanding of life?  Why are we all so closed off?  We only have this one life here on earth- why do we waste it in closed-minded prejudice, instead determinedly seeking out and attacking people who are the ones that seem to be doing the work necessary to grow as a competent human being?  I don’t mean to toot my own horn, but I work hard to read articles— even those I don’t believe are correct — to remain in some tiny way knowledgable about such a sensitive, dividing subject in this world.

 Life pertains to every human being, after all.  So the argument is paltry to say, “it doesn’t affect me”.

To say “Abortion is BAD”  is not enough!  To say, “Don’t like abortion? Don’t have one.” is not enough!  It’s not intelligent, it’s not informed.  

We have got to open ourselves for uncomfortable conversation;  civil conversation, not insulting one another or poking fun with mocking jokes.  I believe it is a good exercise of mind to think about subjects that might make us question our own actions or words.

Bob has since written to me saying that he “only meant to joke, my bad”  
I wrote back saying that if he and I had maintained a close friendship over the years, the understanding of his comment would’ve been different.  But that’s not the case and we both knew it.  I wrote to Bob that for him to have not spoken to me for years, to suddenly seek me out and post a “joke” under a pro-life article I was sharing, was indeed no joke, but a provocation.  I then posed a question to him asking how he would feel if I had suddenly done the same to him, (after years of not speaking) mocking his service for our country (he’s a military man), or something else he is passionate about.  

It’s not civil nor in the spirit of community to talk like this to each other!  We are all human beings, are we not?  We each have a responsibility to bring goodness to our world, to bring people up.  We each deserve to have our voices, our beliefs and our research listened to in a way that is fruitful to the cultivation of our minds and way of life. It is a telling mark of intolerance and discrimination to refuse to introduce conversation in a rational manner, asking questions, and patiently awaiting responses from someone whose view is different from ours.  

To refute a point that I take time to educate someone about with a dismissive, “it’s a joke, my bad” or any sort of prejudgement— (Once, someone responded to my efforts to explain my views with “Okay, so you’re ____-phobic then.  Carry on.”) —shows that those individuals are more intolerant than they accuse me of being.  

 

BEWARE: Even Doctors Are Bigots.

Begin conversation I had with a doctor this week:

Dr: Is this your first child?
Me: No, he’s my second.
Dr: Wow, you look like you’ve barely broken 20 years old, good for you momma.  So you’re a very young momma then?!
Me: *laughs* I’m 27 and we have a third one on the way!
Dr: Oh wow! How many do you plan on having, momma?
Me: All of them
Dr: *starts and double-takes, laughs* Ahh, funny.  Really though, how many…? 
Me: All of them.
Dr: *chuckles again, shakes head* I mean, do you have a goal?
Me: Every child that we are given, I will have.
Dr: OH.  So…10, 15, even 20 kids… you’ll have them?

Me: Well, doctor, I’m 27 years old, do the math.  Even if I have one baby at every possible fertile moment until menopause, it’s hardly biologically, physically possible for me to have even 12 kids… unless I have multiple, multiples.
Dr: How do you figure that? 
Me: Well, I can’t get pregnant for 10 months while I’m already pregnant… I also breastfeed, so that adds at least another year of infertility…


Dr: Oh, WOW!  So you’ve thought this out very carefully!  Okay let’s see… so if you had a kid every 15 months… *he does the math, incorrectly, and telling me that I’m 26, even though I’d already told him twice that I am 27* … well it’s possible that you might have 12 kids, at least.


Me: Yes, it IS possible. And if I have 12 kids, I have 12 kids.
Dr: Oh… so you’re very religious then…?
Me: It’s not so much religion. It’s more from a scientific, metaphysical perspective that I cannot, as a woman, agree that chemical contraceptives are in any way healthy for me or any human life that may be formed in my uterus. 

Dr: Oh… So you’re an earthy child then!
Me: …Earthy child?
Dr: Did you go to college?
Me: yes.
Dr: What did you study?
Me: French language and culture, and fine arts.
Dr: Ah ha! Yes, you’re an earthy child indeed. What does your husband do?
Me: He’s an executive logistics coordinator at […] 
Dr: So there’s you’re counterpart- you’re perfect for each other!

*end inappropriately motivated conversation*
 

And that is how, within minutes, this doctor was able to presume his prejudices about me, a “young”, white, “momma” (as he continually called me).  

Never mind the fact that I was not there for MYSELF.  I was at the Ear Nose and Throat Specialist for my youngest boy’s recent ear infection.  

So this ENT had the audacity to ask me questions that did not pertain in any way whatsoever to the well-being of my little boy, and to draw assumptions on my views about health based off of what I looked like, what my religion is, and whether or not I had an education.

At any moment, if I had said to the doctor, “Oh… so you like to go to clubs and enthusiastically dance on any women standing alone?”  He might’ve been offended.  

And then, if I had justified my question in the way he did, I would have said, “oh, well you are wearing a dark purple and black striped, open neck, shirt with your chest hair hanging out and a shiny flat gold chain… I mean your hair is greased back too.”

I also could have pointed out his ethnicity and made assumptions based on that as well.

But I didn’t.  Those thoughts didn’t even cross my mind until I left the medical center and realized I had just been subjected to prejudice and quite possibly blatant bigotry by a doctor. 

Why did this doctor, who had no business asking me about my family planning methods, feel like he was entitled to do just that?  Was it because he owns the title “DOCTOR” that makes him some all-knowing, all powerful force of the high inquisitor?

What was the point of him even asking how many children I plan on having? Mere conversation? I doubt that. I don’t off-handedly ask my acquaintances how many children they plan to have.  It’s a very personal matter that is decided between a married couple and hopefully, God.

And then to jump to the conclusion that I MUST only be religious in order to believe that I would actually elect to have “ALL the children given to me” Is flat-out absurd and bigoted.  
And because I didn’t give him an absolute answer on my religious beliefs, he calls me earthy, and asks about my education credentials.  Hmm.  

If he REALLY wanted to know the motive behind why I believe the way I do, why didn’t this doctor ask me to explain why I think contraceptives are unhealthy for women?
 WHY DIDN’T HE?
 He skirted right over that topic and tried to scare me into thinking I shall be subject to the “pains” of carrying 20 pregnancies.
 You don’t agree that he tried to scare me?  
If he was any sort of thinking, logical individual, he couldn’t have used that tactic because he would have known for a likely fact that it couldn’t be true.  I had told him my age, twice.

 But no, this DOCTOR had clearly never thought about it.  Apparently, scaring women in this way works.  And sadly, many women don’t know how to answer it, or else, that kind of question wouldn’t have been brought up to me.

So, Mr. DOCTOR, again, did not ask me what my reasons were for not taking contraceptives.  After he tried to scare me and I debunked his attempt, he was not given a satisfying answer that I must be a religious, ignorant zealot who only does what THE POPE says because “that’s just what the Church’s stance is”.  He then proceeded to wonder if I was educated.  

We already know, based off of this conversation, that education and credentials bear no significant weight if you’re already a bigot; that education, science and logic can be thrown aside if you’re a prejudiced chauvinist.  And when Mr. Doctor was not satisfied in knowing that I was uneducated, he affirmed that I must be an “Earthy child”.  

Earthy?  Meaning: au naturel?  Like I’m a flower child? A hippie?  Is that how he was able to discredit me in his mind?
Isn’t that kind of a dated thought?  We now know more and more that natural medicines, organic, unprocessed foods and homeopathic remedies are better for us than many of the marketed chemicals today which are associated with cancer. So I am failing to see how being an “earthy child” might’ve satisfied him, but apparently it did because he asked me no further questions on the subject.

What is disturbing is that clearly, this doctor looks at children as objects to acquire: he looks at life as a dispensable, un-valuable commodity to have or dispose of at convenience.  
Which only means, that if I want to have my child seen by someone who will take all means necessary to cure and heal him, because he believes that each and every human life on this earth is deserving of dignity and equal value, I DO NOT want to continue seeing this doctor.

Parents and prospective “mommas”, it is important that you ask your doctors what the value of a human life is to them.  The answer should be a simple one: All life is infinitely valuable.
If the doctor can’t answer you directly, or has to give long drawn out explanations, I’d seek another doctor because you can probably safely assume that the doctor won’t fight for your life, or that of anyone you love.

A doctor is supposed to value human life.  A doctor is supposed to want to save human life, preserve human life, and encourage a human’s well-being.  A doctor is supposed to be able to put prejudice aside -if he/she has any- in order to focus on the care for the patient.  But apparently, not all of them do.  Beware, do your research, and most importantly, ASK QUESTIONS. 

I’ll end asking the prayerful to pray for all doctors (because I MUST be very religious) and for their increased awareness of the intrinsic value of all human life.

The MORAL Basis for Defending All Human Life. →

Again, from Live Action, but man, they just keep having really good stuff!

What is a human life worth to you? And if you have to explain with various scenarios and lengthy extremes, the answer is clear: not enough.

If a human life is only worth to you what you deem is his/her value, then, have you ever perhaps thought what your value is to anyone else who measures worth in physical evidence?  Perhaps you’re as dispensable as the fetus you believe isn’t worth equal protection to live, according to someone who doesn’t believe that all human beings are equal in their inherent dignity. 

How can we trust a leader of a nation to protect his citizens if he doesn’t see the worth in each and every human life, but only some of us? How can we actually believe that this type of leader would bring about true equality to our great nation? 

The Argument Against Abortion from Metaphysics →

  
Source: http://liveaction.org/blog/strangled-newborn-murder-or-late-late-term-abortion/baby-2/

This link describes what I think is -or should be- common sense.  I really want to know how pro-aborts disagree, or how they could agree yet still ignore the logic and carry on, calling it “women’s health” or “my BODY”.

 The more and more one looks at the logical, scientific and spiritual defense for the right to Life in comparison to the elementary, unscientific and faulty views in defense of abortion, the more and more I come to believe that there is something inherently wrong, deeply engrained, in the logic of the individuals who believe that abortion is a good, healthy right for women.  Prayer is needed for these individuals who believe that by ending someone else’s life, their own problems can be solved.

The Scientific Basis for defending ALL human life. →

Oh, Science.  I love how “opinions” about when life begins cannot hold a candle to you.

How this is relevant to birth control:  It flushes your body of the newly created human life, when after trying to implant, the tiny, unique human life cannot attach and is thus aborted into the toilet while the mother experiences bleeding and what she imagines to just be her period. I’ve given citations for this before. But since we live in a world that, without the answer given immediately, with no effort on behalf of the reader, they’ll dismiss it to mere “opinion”, here you go: http://www.acog.org/~/media/For%20Patients/faq021.pdf?dmc=1&ts=20120220T1707076634

from The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists.  Note they use the scientifically incorrect term “fertilized egg”.   

Bear With Me on This One, and Please Forgive Me. →

Again. Look at it. It’s SCIENCE, not religion, that explains why birth control is TERRIBLE for you and your baby that you may never know you had. This is a truth that is hard to come by. Why? Because then when we accept it, we have to accept a greater responsibility for our reproductive health.

AS WE SHOULD. I am a woman for goodness sake! Why wouldn’t I want to know how my amazing female body works? And how would knowing hurt me? For certain, it takes some work. It takes some time out of my day, reading and studying. I’ve got two toddlers and a house to keep up along with constant morning sickness- I do it. Isn’t it worth it to any true feminist? To know what her body does and can do? To not want to suppress her natural gift of nature?

I feel like the other “feminists” who ignorantly claim that a fetus is “my body” are unknowingly and woefully mislead by MEN: Men who want to have sex without consequence. Many partners. Dispose of any evidence of abuse. Men who paint and market women as objects that can be tailored to look however they want (hair extensions? Implants? Injections? Lingerie? Plastic surgery? Anyone?), used to momentarily satisfy their spastic sexual fantasy, only to be able to dump the object and move onto the next one. “GIT ER DUN!”

What are those “feminists”, really? They think they’re really independent??? Sexual freedom? It’s enslavement. In her sexual revolution, this woman has chained herself to a (crappy) man, to do his bidding. For a man’s pleasure. A man who doesn’t value a woman and her dignity, her true femininity, her true beauty and mystique as a rightful to-be-revered creation. To push for birth control. “I don’t want you getting pregnant and ruining my life” so pop a Pill and let’s get it on, woman!

Or these feminists think poppin that cancer inducing pill will ensure them true equality in the workplace, a rewarding career. They think children are the enslavement. I hate to inform those “feminists” that if it weren’t for their mother, and her love or “enslavement”, they wouldn’t be blessed with the chance to scratch their way up the career ladder they’re scaling at the moment. I feel like these “feminists” have a shallow, puddle-like view of their world and the worth of their life.
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I’m stopping right there. Being in the first trimester and having a 1 & 2.5 year old -one who’s sick right now- it sometimes takes me a week of periodic writing to complete one blog entry. I go at it like it’s my job or something… ANYWAY— What I wrote above was laced -actually FUMIGATED- with anger, over-generalization and sarcasm.

It’s so easy to be angry after reading or witnessing ignorance parading as intelligence.

And even at that, ignorance can be intelligent.

Here are my renewed thoughts, and this time, with compassion and love:


I’ve been sick to death wondering why so many women ignore the science of chemical contraceptives: That they increase the risk of breast cancer, cervical cancer. That they mask the ailments a woman has and don’t treat her problem. That they have the ability to chemically abort an already conceived human being.

It angers me that women are so stubbornly supportive of such a chemical, even to the extent that they are willing to risk chemically aborting a human they’ll never see in order to better plan for their future.

The link above provides scientific fact behind my assertions. I have many more scientific links in support throughout my blog but I’m not taking the time to retrieve them… I realized today that many women in support of contraceptives believe there is no other way.

What got me to calm down happened today, obviously… I read an article by Kristen Walker, a pretty retro, hip and funny pro-life advocate. I love her astute honesty and sometimes I (regretfully) relish her brutal generalizations on the left-minded pro-abort individual.

So, in my constant nagging way, I shared it with my Facebook pals.
One of my high school friends commented saying that while the article was funny and entertaining, she felt she was being more responsible by taking birth control so that she could better herself -finish school, save money, own house- before starting a family. She asked why she should be made to feel irresponsible for doing that: improving her life.

I love my friend. How can I possibly want to make her feel like she’s doing the wrong thing, and she’s a bad person for wanting to plan for her future? I could never!

I realized that while both sides are busy telling each other who’s wrong and who’s right, hardly anyone is giving the safer alternative. I am so constantly trying to edify my correctness with the facts that I don’t provide the ways to know better.

The answers are out there. They’re just kind of hard to find.

By my friend’s calculations, she is doing the right thing. She’s trying to be the best she can be, the safest she can be and the smartest.

But what she doesn’t seem to fully know is what I so angrily introduced in the beginning of this entry: a woman’s natural way of telling her what’s going on.

This is a woman’s responsibility. She will be empowered to know it.
We are given boobs, a uterus and ovaries for a reason. Yes, they are for a baby, but they tell us more than that.
It’s hard work, understanding this and trying to improve ourselves. Many times, it requires a lifestyle change: no smoking/drinking, diet change, exercise etc. But it is, IT IS the better way. It is the healthiest way.

While the question of whether or not chemical contraceptives cause or reduce the risk of cancer is constantly being battled, this alternative zeros out the question completely. This natural way, can probably reduce risks to any cancer, providing that it requires a woman to live in the healthiest way according to her personal needs possible.

This is what pro-lifers should be concerned about just as much as saving lives. I know many are focused on this too…. but many others are just angry. Don’t be angry! No one responds to anger well.

I am so guilty of this. Almost 3 years ago I wrote an entry filled with frustration and anger at the ignorance of many toward their understanding of chemical contraceptives. The article was supported with truth but written with malice. It rendered some family members who have been close to me all my life very distant. VERY distant. I made those people feel accused of doing something terrible.

While what they may or may not have been doing is still wrong, according to science and Christianity, they closed their hearts to it because of the manner in which I presented it.

Since then, I have tried to be careful and compassionate, mainly posting articles that support my findings instead of writing my thoughts alone.

You live, you learn.

So here we are again, Contraceptives the hot topic because of the HHS Obama Mandate. I have an opportunity to talk, write and educate people about it. I can offer what I know!

I’m going to try to do just that. If I can, legally… It will take some time ( LIKE MONTHS ), because as I said, I don’t have hours on end to sit and research and write. But I hope to be part of the community that wishes to bring a woman up, to help her understand her body better than to suppress it with fake hormones that can harm her in the long run.
I pray for the perseverance!

Outrage against Obama. →

What I shared on my Facebook page today, and because I can’t write an original new piece for every networking outlet I have due to my mommy responsibilities, I’m copying and pasting.  Hope no one minds. Actually, I don’t care! :)

If you’re sick of me voicing my beliefs, save me the trouble and de-friend me now, because everyone has a right to this freedom. And these freedoms are being taken away from Americans. You need to know it, and much of the media is silent about it. What are you passionate about? What if it was being thwarted by our government? Would you just not like to think or read bout it, or feel scared to share it with people who might be annoyed? I am not. 

"…the Catholic Church is definitely the largest and arguably the most prolific charitable organization on the planet. If you have done any reading on the subject of European history, you will know that throughout the past two millennia, no one single entity has fed, clothed, and healed more human beings — including human women — around the world than the big mean evil patriarchal rich white woman-hating Catholic Church. This is not me ringing the Papal bell because I’m a Catholic. It’s just true.

Oh, you pesky truth! Getting in the way of everybody’s sexy, young, refreshing lies!”
 

Decoding what Komen REALLY says.  →

If anyone has been following the whole Komen-Planned Parenthood issue even remotely closely, they’ll have noticed that the media is having a trilling heyday over Komen flip-flopping and reversing its decision. But, again, if you’ve been watching and reading closely, Komen’s apparent “backtracking” is not so. Their “reversal” statement is no different than their original statement.

Please read Jill Stanek’s astute observation and then continue to watch Komen over the next year-year and a half. It’s now a waiting game.

And for goodness sakes! Before posting an article, READ it first, and thoroughly, before going (as my mom so accurately pointed out) completely Chicken Little and screaming that the SKY IS FALLING before even looking up. You’ll get eaten by the wolves.

I’d like to comment further on how Planned Parenthood has effectively bullied Komen and it’s supporters (they raised over $1 million in “emergency funds” knowing their grants would still be honored through the year!).

I have mommy stuff to do and I’ll try to post soon. As for now, the article above says pretty much what I’d like to write anyway.

And this one does too:

http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/want-to-know-what-is-actually-happening-with-komen-vs.-planned-parenth

So does this one:

http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2012/februaryweb-only/komen-silver-lining.html

That’s all!

On Matters of Opinion

I’ve been indirectly and many times directly hounded about my views. No problem there: any chance I have to be able to shed light on Truth is a good chance.

However I often get the individuals who say “I don’t agree with you, but everyone’s entitled to their opinion” Or, “I’m tired of hearing you projecting your political opinion on everyone!”

Here’s my quandary:
Aren’t there such strange and wondrous objects in this world called “facts”? Isn’t there such a thing as Truth? As right or wrong?

Cause if there’s not, then EVERYTHING is opinion.
Science, mathematics, anything that takes a precise calculation or anything that we see right in front of our faces may just be your opinion or mine. Nothing ever right, nothing ever wrong.

How mundane, blasé and confusing a world it must be to individuals who really believe “it’s all relative”!

Here’s a fact: on life and death, it’s not relative.

My ‘opinions’ I spew are supported with FACTS. many facts: 

Fact: A new Human Life starts at conception.
Fact: Abortion ends the life of a human being.  (Graphic Images)

Fact: So, also do medications which cause the lining of a uterine wall to shed after a conceived human being has begun to look for a home within the uterine’s walls. The Pill is capable of doing that: there’s no telling when, but an abortion can be caused by the pill. The Morning After Pill is MADE for abortion.
Fact: Contraceptives (the pill, morning after, IUD’s) all increase the risk of Breast Cancer according to the World Health Organization and are classified as a Type I Carcinogen. (#5.2 on page 169)
Fact: Planned Parenthoodprovides contraceptives: “emergency” and the Pill.
Fact: Planned Parenthood provides abortions.
Fact: Planned Parenthood does NOT provide life saving mammograms. 
Fact: Planned Parenthood is currently under investigation for aiding and abetting sex traffickers, covering up rape, under reporting abortions, falsely claiming to provide mammograms and not giving accurate, scientific information about life within the womb (“there is no heartbeat”, “it’s a clump of cells, not alive, not a human being”). 

So if I were a large, respectable organization dedicated to funding research to save women’s lives and fight Breast Cancer, why would I want to associate with such an organization as Planned Parenthood until I knew for certain that the allegations are not true?
I wouldn’t.

How can anyone blame Susan G Komen?

And how on earth can anyone be chalking all of this up to “conservative Christians and their moral opinions”?

I’m sorry but if you think that sex trafficking or rape being right or wrong is a matter of opinion, you cannot be fully sane.

Those are terribly serious allegations. Serious allegations that have been caught on tape.
These are facts. Not fabricated opinions based on “I just don’t feeeeeeel that it’s right in my heart!”

Instead it is BECAUSE of these facts that I KNOW it is wrong.

And for someone to say, “well, I’m sorry, that’s your opinion. …I just don’t agree with you,” says to me “I don’t want to agree with you because then I’ll have to admit that I have been wrong. I have been mislead.”
Stubbornness. Yikes.
OR:
There’s another reason that someone may chalk these facts up to a matter of opinion:

They are actually okay with killing an innocent human being.
That’s scarier.
Because it means they understand the truth and still reject it.

I pray for you, if that is your “opinion”.

Komen’s grant removal for Planned Parenthood in no way affects poor women’s availability to free mammograms or breast screenings. This is probably the section you need to copy and paste to all the angry people who accuse you of hating poor women (insert sigh). Here’s how this works. You go to Planned Parenthood and get your annual exam. Part of that includes a breast screening. It’s a Level 1, same as you do at home. A doctor does this as part of a routine annual exam Side note—any doctor who needs a grant from Komen to do a Level 1 exam should have his or her license removed. They aren’t going to suddenly say “I did your whole exam but I can’t check your breasts because Komen sends us money to check your breasts.” All that government funding they get, which is more in one day than Komen gave them in a year, covers a GYN doing the annual exam, which includes the breast exam.
If there is a suspicion that something could be wrong, PP then gives you a voucher to go to a local facility that does mammograms, since they don’t do them. So you have to make another appointment and go to the next facility. Yes, it may be free if they deem you qualify, but it takes longer.
Under new funding rules, now the money will be given directly to the actually mammogram facilities, eliminating the middle man and even, possibly, crucial time which could help save a life. There is not less money being given to breast cancer screenings. It’s redirected money to places that still serve poor women and help them, but without the middle man.
The angry mobs that have called Komen names and made all sorts of veiled threats, and even hacked the Komen website, prove that the priority isn’t women’s health. If we really care about the poor women we don’t start screaming, name calling and taking sides, but we love and help them. I have not seen a single post from anyone on Twitter, Facebook or comments on our blog that has offered help—just used emotionally charged rhetoric and name calling to draw battle lines. They’ve used this opportunity not to help women but to start their own political war. What Komen did was good business: eliminating the middle man.”

~http://bound4life.com/blog/2012/02/02/planned-parenthood-s-response-to-komen-reveals-culture-of-co-dependence

Please go to this article and read the truth about Susan G Komen severing financial ties with Planned Parenthood. What SGK has done is professional and in the best interest of women and Breast Cancer research.
Do not be frightened by the angry rhetoric being shouted from the adolescent-like groups who support only Planned Parenthood and their abortion agenda.

That’s all I have time to write today, but I’ll be back with a lot more, I promise. :)

http://bound4life.com/blog/2012/02/02/planned-parenthood-s-response-to-komen-reveals-culture-of-co-dependence
Oh, Planned Parenthood, what an all time low you’ve achieved.
I watched George Clooney’s The Ides of March over the weekend. [Spoiler alert, sorry] It’s about a democratic governor running in the primaries, hoping to get a bid for presidency. He impregnates a young intern. Ryan Gosling’s character, the advisor for the governor’s campaign, uses campaign money and some of his own to pay for the intern’s abortion. Intern ultimately kills herself under the immense weight of shame, regret and stress of having involved herself with the governor and the potential threat of the issue becoming public knowledge.This is what Planned Parenthood is proud of. Being a woman’s “Morning After”, “a sexual experience”. Planned Parenthood seems proud to cover up the tracks of a man that should not be running for office; in fact, to HELP HIM get there.
Where is the care for the woman in all of this?Where is the care that the pro-choice proponents seem to claw around for when defending Planned Parenthood?This, to me, seems like the fairly common occurrence when it comes to choice for abortion: the woman aborts for a social reason, is hushed up, shipped out, and forgotten. But what happens afterward? Where is Planned Parenthood for the TRUE morning after?
Granted, the woman in this story -and in so many others- has the responsibility to say NO to a situation that would put her in jeopardy of consequences she’s not willing to handle. And of course now we’re all thinking of an event where a woman may be inhibited from the ability to say no… To which I’ll give the statistic that only %1 abortions reported are due to rape or incest
And Planned Parenthood covers THAT up as well.
So here we are again, facing the Planned Parenthood who advertises that “Women are Watching” and claiming that the pro-lifers do not care about women, only the babies.
Clearly Planned Parenthood’s women aren’t watching the women whose stories are getting hushed up and swept under the rug by abortions. The women who have been sexually trafficked, who’ve been raped, who’ve been treated like a dispensable object by men because those men are enabled by Planned Parenthood to cover up their wrong-doings by getting rid of the evidence: a human life created.
"We’re Your Morning After"If there’s anyone who’s dealt with a “morning after”, think about how that morning after feels. Anyone proud of it? Honestly, proud?
Shame. Regret.
That’s what I know to be associated with the morning after.And that is what Planned Parenthood seems proud to represent: Shame and regret.

Oh, Planned Parenthood, what an all time low you’ve achieved.

I watched George Clooney’s The Ides of March over the weekend. [Spoiler alert, sorry]
It’s about a democratic governor running in the primaries, hoping to get a bid for presidency. He impregnates a young intern. Ryan Gosling’s character, the advisor for the governor’s campaign, uses campaign money and some of his own to pay for the intern’s abortion. Intern ultimately kills herself under the immense weight of shame, regret and stress of having involved herself with the governor and the potential threat of the issue becoming public knowledge.

This is what Planned Parenthood is proud of. Being a woman’s “Morning After”, “a sexual experience”.
Planned Parenthood seems proud to cover up the tracks of a man that should not be running for office; in fact, to HELP HIM get there.

Where is the care for the woman in all of this?
Where is the care that the pro-choice proponents seem to claw around for when defending Planned Parenthood?
This, to me, seems like the fairly common occurrence when it comes to choice for abortion: the woman aborts for a social reason, is hushed up, shipped out, and forgotten. But what happens afterward?
Where is Planned Parenthood for the TRUE morning after?

Granted, the woman in this story -and in so many others- has the responsibility to say NO to a situation that would put her in jeopardy of consequences she’s not willing to handle. And of course now we’re all thinking of an event where a woman may be inhibited from the ability to say no… To which I’ll give the statistic that only %1 abortions reported are due to rape or incest

And Planned Parenthood covers THAT up as well.

So here we are again, facing the Planned Parenthood who advertises that “Women are Watching” and claiming that the pro-lifers do not care about women, only the babies.

Clearly Planned Parenthood’s women aren’t watching the women whose stories are getting hushed up and swept under the rug by abortions. The women who have been sexually trafficked, who’ve been raped, who’ve been treated like a dispensable object by men because those men are enabled by Planned Parenthood to cover up their wrong-doings by getting rid of the evidence: a human life created.

"We’re Your Morning After"
If there’s anyone who’s dealt with a “morning after”, think about how that morning after feels. Anyone proud of it? Honestly, proud?

Shame. Regret.

That’s what I know to be associated with the morning after.

And that is what Planned Parenthood seems proud to represent: Shame and regret.